Saturday 19 May 2018

Life And Its Complications With Relationships

By Roger Kelly


People spend half of their life trying to find the right person. Since the beginning of time the concept of love and relationship has already been around. However looking for the right person is not as easy as it sounds.

Finding a lover is no easy voyage and obstacles in maintaining a long lasting relationship is part of the package. Issues like struggling with intimacy come normal and usual. Keeping a stable relationship is a real battlefield.

It always all starts with courtship. There are a lot of situations to initially meet some that can catch your attention. There are times that you are the first one to feel the spark, sometimes it is the other person who needs to initiate it. Either way, one needs to make the move. More often than not, it is this stage where people comprehend how the power of stares and simple eye to eye contact can ignite and start it all.

Everything happens for a reason. A person knows they are in love when they are able to get sleepless nights because finally, reality seems better than their dreams. True love is immeasurable and priceless and it does not have an exact definition. You just know that it is right, because no matter how wrong it may seem, you will always find ways to correct it and make it work.

There will be that time that all the initial interest seems to furnace. One becomes emotionally unstable. Some even need to fake it with their partners. They hide the real feeling of unhappiness. They run out of reasons to make the relationship work. Or, they simply just fall out.

As time passes by, individual differences start to flicker. Arguments lead to arise. Misunderstandings become normal and sometimes could go to extremes. A person would then start feeling the loss of spark. The intimacy in the way you used to look at each other is now gone. The tingling feeling with their mere presence most especially when they are near is now lost.

It is when third parties normally occur. The moment someone else produces a new spark and even if a person is still in an existing relationship, you cannot seem to notice that you have lost interest and starting to invest to a new one unconsciously. There will always be exception to the rule, but normally no one wants to cheat or intentionally do it.

When the pain of holding on becomes greater than it is of letting go then it is simply time to give up. The person who does not deserve you is blocking you from the one who do. The hardest thing that normally keeps someone hold on is the familiarity and the moments shared together, the attachment that is shared. It is the connection made throughout the duration of the relationship.

But to heal a wound, one needs to simply stop touching it. Sometimes, people come to your life just to teach you some lessons and mold you to be a better version of yourself. The technique is simple, accept of what is, forget of what was and brighten your thoughts of what will be. Always remember, you do not drown by falling but by staying there.




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