Saturday 29 March 2014

Learning The Art Of Flirting

By Brett Vaughan


Flirting is a crucial skill that some people acquire it naturally while others have to practice the art so as to master the skill. In the art of flirting, people have to go past their fear of approaching stranger and overcome the perception that strangers are dangerous. In fact, the anonymity of strangers should be seen as advantage since one has no information about the other.

For those that have a hard time approaching other people, and lack the confidence to do so need practice which is better done by approaching random stranger and learning how to initiate a conversation. This way, one has nothing to lose if they make a fool out of themselves since they probably never meet these people again which build their confidence before they meet the right person.

By doing more practice one get better at this by being more comfortable and figures out what works for them and more so how to take a beating of their ego as one is bound to rejections. As time goes by, one gets comfortable practicing it with random stranger which shows one can move to the next step that involves semi-strangers and move on as confidence to approach the people they like is gathered.

Usually some people may appear intimidating and as a result, people are cautious of approaching them for fear of rejection; what most people do not know is that they are likely to also be interested in them but are just waiting for someone to approach them. However, this is usually easier for people used in exchanging phone number and saliva as they are confident enough to know that there are some people out there who are interested in them.

Flirting starts with the eyes, and then the mouth and a little bit of shyness and coyness especially for women. This is different for men and women as women are allowed to act shy while men on the other hand are expected to be confident. Over time, this art has evolved as men are not the only ones who do the approaching as women are now approaching men and even asking for their numbers.

Flirting does not have a definite place that can be said to be appropriate for it; however, one should have the ability to see it when others are sending signals and hints. For instance, one should know that when someone blinks, smile and somewhat acts coy they probably are telling them to approach them. Moreover, there should be a limit for everything as it gets weird when one overdoes it.

This art takes a cycle whereby one starts by hinting their target with eye gestures, then a smile accompanied with body language which should be an indication that it is the right time to go t the target. In addition to this, being able to ignite a conversation is critical as having a conversation that is flowing makes the time enjoyable giving room to make an advance to break the touch barrier.

For a successful flirting moment, there are certain rules that come in handy making it interesting and fun. For people who want to secure a second date it is important to be careful and ensure that one leaves when the date is going very well. This way, one leaves a suspense that lets the other person want to meet again and finish what was started.




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