Sunday 16 March 2014

Are You Suffering Through A Bad Marriage?

By Herbert Zabala


Living in a bad marriage is a miserable experience for both you and your spouse. Marriages take work; if they are going to succeed, couples have to be able to weather both the good and the bad with one another. Even when the situation clearly is not working, many couples choose to stay together and try and make the best of it.

There can be good days and bad days, which will make you feel as though you are on a sort of emotional roller coaster that has come off of the tracks.

Spouses who grew up in a home with a bad marriage often assume that this is the same everywhere. They see their parents go through their marriage without love just for the kids. This usually does not help the children at all.

Do not ignore what is happening with your marriage. It is incredibly scary to think about being alone or to come to the conclusion that your marriage is going to be a statistic. You may be worried about your children or how the rest of your family will react to your failing marriage.

Some of the signs of a marriage in trouble include the lack of affection, intimacy and communication. There may be even abuse physically and verbally. If either the husband or the wife make excuses to not be at home all the time, that is a signal that something is wrong. With no communication, problems cannot be solved. You have to recognize and accept what the problem is, then solve it together.

Some of the signs that you could be involved in a bad marriage could include everything from no intimacy or affection to little or no communication between partners. In more severe cases, you will often see a relationship where there is a lot of verbal and even physical abuse.

There will often be a lot of excuses being made by either partner to try and stay away from home as much as possible or there will be a lot of issues that can arise from having a difficult time staying on the same page when it comes to important decisions.

The unfortunate news is that only about one percent of married couples actually seek counseling. Maybe you know what the problem is but you fear admitting it. A counselor can help you bring out the truth and offer advice that can help.

Keeping a positive attitude is very important, but remember, you can't turn a blind eye to everything that is going wrong with your marriage. Only by addressing your problems can you seek effective solutions.

Try to remember that dealing with a bad marriage can end up being quite dangerous to your health and mental stability. If you have children, they need you to remain strong and steadfast no matter what may be going on within the relationship with the other parent.

Before you do anything else, though, make sure you really want to save your marriage. If you do, there is nothing stopping you other than yourself.




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