It's sure to happen. Sometimes you can't do anything to help it. There is bound to be a few spats when two separate people come together. But it's perfectly normal. It can be hard to get over a fight in a long distance relationship, so I've laid out a few guidelines below to help you through the situation.
While In The Argument
Think About What You Say Before You Say It
Often when people get into a heavy fight they completely lose control and they occasionally say stuff to one another that they wouldn't even dream of saying in a regular conversation. We realize you might be angry. And sometimes it may be their fault entirely. But remember to pick your words carefully. Be sure to take some long deep breaths and think it over before saying anything. This can help to guard your lovers feelings and is sure to speed up the making-up process.
Use Limited Contact Until Your Tensions Have Levelled Out
It's no good talking to them while you are still upset with your lover. It's probably best to quit all communication until you both have calmed down and are ready to make up with one another. No phone calls. No text messages. No Skype.
When Making Up
Forget About Placing The Blame
It's not about who's to blame. It's about what the issues are, and how to handle them in the future. If you argue over something that they don't really like about you, then it could be time to change that something they don't like. A lot of couples have an, "I'm not gonna change for anybody" attitude in a relationship. Take it from us, the ones that do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship.
Remember You Are Both On The Same Side
As you grow closer together, you have to learn to make decisions together. These choices will determine your future. You are both in the relationship because you love each other, and you both want the same positive final result. Just remember that you are each on the same team.
Send Them A Letter of Apology
A nice touch after you have made up is to mail your companion a letter saying that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Try to make your feelings about the argument known, but remember to let your lover know that you do not want to argue anymore. Possibly send a present along with it, or a photo that will help remind them of a joyful time you both spent together.
While In The Argument
Think About What You Say Before You Say It
Often when people get into a heavy fight they completely lose control and they occasionally say stuff to one another that they wouldn't even dream of saying in a regular conversation. We realize you might be angry. And sometimes it may be their fault entirely. But remember to pick your words carefully. Be sure to take some long deep breaths and think it over before saying anything. This can help to guard your lovers feelings and is sure to speed up the making-up process.
Use Limited Contact Until Your Tensions Have Levelled Out
It's no good talking to them while you are still upset with your lover. It's probably best to quit all communication until you both have calmed down and are ready to make up with one another. No phone calls. No text messages. No Skype.
When Making Up
Forget About Placing The Blame
It's not about who's to blame. It's about what the issues are, and how to handle them in the future. If you argue over something that they don't really like about you, then it could be time to change that something they don't like. A lot of couples have an, "I'm not gonna change for anybody" attitude in a relationship. Take it from us, the ones that do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship.
Remember You Are Both On The Same Side
As you grow closer together, you have to learn to make decisions together. These choices will determine your future. You are both in the relationship because you love each other, and you both want the same positive final result. Just remember that you are each on the same team.
Send Them A Letter of Apology
A nice touch after you have made up is to mail your companion a letter saying that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Try to make your feelings about the argument known, but remember to let your lover know that you do not want to argue anymore. Possibly send a present along with it, or a photo that will help remind them of a joyful time you both spent together.
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