Friday 21 April 2017

Why Marriage Counseling VA Does Not Work Anymore

By Anna West


Marriages that succeed are due to a blend of a number of factors. Two of the most important ones are happiness and fulfillment. Absence of these two crucial factors besides others could lead to matrimony disaster and subsequent marriage counseling VA.

A number of people assume that the only alternative once you start experiencing marriage challenges is counseling. But when you turn to matrimony counseling, the focus is on behavior, action and doing. And in fact, it's very possible that you could do all the tips, techniques and offered to you by your matrimony counselor, yet still wind up unhappy and frustrated with each other. Why?

There is no end to the ways that couples can create conflict in their relationships. And there are many reasons why couples seek matrimony counseling. All marriages are beset with difficulties at some point in the relationship. Sadly, many do not survive them, and become numbered in the divorce statistics.

Sometimes married couples present a lot of signs that would point to therapy not being successful such as not being in love, having severe problems, and not wanting to find a solution to fix the problems they have.

Now I know I'm making a generalization about ALL matrimony counselors and I do realize that there are some "renegade" matrimony counselors who do not follow these beliefs. But based on the countless "horror stories" from the couples I've worked with over the years, these counselors are few and far between.

As may be seen in this article, working to save a marriage is the central discussion. But, what of the couples that insist on divorce? Sometimes, even couples who have reached this point in their matrimony can be helped to retrieve it through therapy. But even if the matrimony cannot be saved, using therapy to help couples divorce amicably, even transform into friends, lean how to be willing co-parents to their children, etc., can lessen the pain and help people achieve a more constructive process. During the stages of dissolving the matrimony, extreme emotions are likely to be felt.

The physical and emotional separation may aggravate feeling of pain, loss, mourning and distress. Matrimony therapy can often be of great help during this period as it can help couples express emotions that have not been fully expressed, and clear the air for a new beginning as divorced people.

The reason couples end up in the offices of matrimony counselors is because they want somebody to help them do what they're not able to do... Believe their matrimony IS valuable. Talk to virtually any couple who has been to a matrimony counselor and you'll find them in agreement. But the sad truth is that most marriage counselors just don't believe matrimony itself IS valuable.




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