Thursday, 29 August 2013

Do Women Really Hate Being Hit On?

By J. Ryu


Since guys have a misconception that women despise being hit on, lots of men have a hard time going up to and hitting on women. This is a myth that girls have perpetuated and a myth that men have been totally fooled into. Belief in this fake myth causes most guys to dislike and fear approaching and hitting on girls. He'll think, "Girls despise being hit on by men so if I approach to her, she'll think I'm a creep ..."

Most women will say they don't really like it or that it agitates them but the the truth is, women love being hit on. They love it and can't get enough of it. It is a great, quick stroke for their self esteem and ego. Because all women wish to feel attractive and desirable, a random stranger approaching them and hitting on them confirms that they are in fact desirable.

Most women, no matter how hot they are, will have some level of self consciousness and doubt about their attractiveness factor. The act of men hitting on them serves to alleviate those doubts and therefore corroborate their attractiveness.

If you have ever before overheard women gabbing about how they dislike being hit on or a female friend admitted to you how irritating it is, you've just experienced the female psychology at work. Although they secretly enjoy it, they can not explicitly admit to this. They have to hide it and pretend to dislike it simply because the female social dynamic requires it.

For women (and men to some extent), their perceived social status is of the utmost importance. They have to protect this social status within their group dynamic at all costs. If they freely admit to enjoy being hit on, they are in danger of being labelled as sluts or attention-mongers. Labels such as these will lower their social value and so must be avoided at all costs.

Furthermore, if women loathed attention and being hit on, makeup would be a dead industry instead of the $170 billion dollar business it is. They would wear motel curtains and shapeless T-shirts, and the whole beauty business would not exist. There are those men, though, that have been fooled into believing another myth. That women do not dress up for guys, they dress up for other women.

There is some truth to this and it has to do with some kind of complex social group dynamics that only sociologists can decipher. However, this means absolutely nothing in the bigger picture of attracting women because even if this is true, ultimately, this means women are competing with each other for male attention. They dress up for other women so that they can look better than them or outdo them, but for what exact purpose? Besides the psychological ego gratification type explanations, ultimately, they do this to compete for male validation and male attention.

However, there is a big catch to this. Women enjoy being hit on by genuine guys hitting on them correctly. If you think you can approach any woman and say garbage pickup lines or insulting, condescending sexual innuendos like "I like your butt" and think that they will like it, you are retarded. This is not hitting on women, this is being a chump that no woman will accept. Therefore, you must learn the proper way to hit on women and the appropriate things to say.

Recognize, know, and believe that women want and love being hit on. They want you to come up to them and talk to them, assuming you look presentable and you do it properly. Destroy the false dogma in your mind that thinks that women will think you're a creep if you hit on them. By changing this frame of mind, you are halfway to success to hitting on women.




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