Thursday, 3 April 2014

3 Sure Signs That Your Ex Still Has Feelings For You

By Beth E Peterson


The emotions that you're feeling in the wake of your breakup are perfectly normal. The doubt and despair as well as the confusion and sadness over your loss strike your heart like an arrow. Trying to sort out what your ex might be feeling can leave you perplexed and grasping at straws as you attempt to decipher what your ex says and what they do. Does your ex still love you or was it all a dream?

Sorting out your own feelings and deciding what you should do in such a situation can be heartbreaking. Does your ex still love you? Does your ex miss you? Should you try talking things through with your ex or should you wait for them to come back to you? The truth is that your ex very well might be as confused as you are right now but take a hint from these signs that your ex does still love you and hold fast to the hope that you can get back together with your ex.

If you hear from some of your friends or family members that you ex was in touch with them then there is a good chance that your ex is missing you. Your ex might say that they were simply catching up with old friends or that they didn't want to be rude to your family but the truth is probably something completely different. For your ex to contact your mutual friends or your immediate family, there is probably still some love there for you and a feeling of loss that they needed to address. Contacting people close to you is a passive way of contacting you without disturbing you or contacting you directly.

Of course, when you get this news, try not to dig for information. Keep your private life, your thoughts and emotions to yourself. Try not to drop hints to your friends or family that you're still in love with your ex. Let your ex come to you. Don't use your friends or family as mediators and don't allow them to get stuck in the middle of the reunion process. While all of this is a good sign, be reserved and let your friends and family know that it's perfectly fine that they communicate with your ex and that you hold no ill will towards your ex.

Perhaps your ex has actually tried to contact you directly. Maybe they called you or sent you a text message asking how you were or offering to give you some of the things that they still have from when you were together. This is another very good sign that your ex still has feelings for you or that they miss you. It's only natural that your ex is going to miss you. When that loss becomes overwhelming they will attempt to ease that pain by contacting you so they can hear your voice and feel that connection again. All of this is a very good sign that your ex still loves you.

Be careful not to get too excited or to think that this is your chance to get back together with your ex. Be cool and calm. If you feel that you can't remain calm and you feel the desire to beg your ex to take you back, postpone your meeting or avoid picking up the phone. Until you self-confidence has returned, you are only going to push your ex away by talking too much or bringing up the subject of getting back together. This contact from your ex is a good sign but it can be a trap that will cause you to push them further away in an attempt to get back together.

Lastly, if you are still friends with your ex on some social networking sites or you find yourself looking at their profile to find out what is going on in their life, you might be surprised by what you find. If your ex is posting pictures of what they're doing or status updates about how wonderful their life is then they very well might be missing you. Even photos of someone new that they're dating or how happy they are will be signs that they are trying too hard to prove to the world that they are happy without you.

It can be dangerous to spy on your ex using their social networking profile. Sometimes it's better to live in ignorant bliss. Be sure that you're in a positive mood and understand that there is always a logical explanation for whatever you find. You might be tempted to become hurt or angry if your ex appears to be having a great time without you but keep in mind that often when someone is trying to convince the world that everything is fine, there are problems just underneath the surface. People often cover deep wounds with partying and acting as if things are just a little too wonderful to be true. An ex that posts picture of themselves with a new partner or a status update saying how happy they are is usually on the brink of falling apart. Be sure that you have your life together since this is your cue that they are about to implode.

Wait for any or all of these signs to appear in your life and you can be sure that your ex misses you and your love. You may be tempted to contact your ex or even voice your opinion about what they appear to be doing. Avoid this temptation and instead let your ex come to you first. Let your ex be the one that caves in. Let your ex be the first one to say I love you. Let everything happen naturally but be prepared for that moment when it arrives. Work on your self-confidence and get back to being that person that your ex fell in love with in the first place and you stand a very good chance of getting back together with your ex.




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